Confidence and self-belief

November 25th, 2011 by Sue MacGillivray

Most people would like to have more confidence in a particular area of their life; personally or professionally, in their relationships, socially, at work, in themselves or with others.

Improving our confidence consists of a two- fold approach:  firstly, to look at ourselves and understand who we really are and secondly, to pay attention and be aware of how we project ourselves to the outside world.

Internally, confidence comes from understanding  our personal values, beliefs, interests, strengths, skills and experiences and having awareness of how these contribute to making us unique. It is important to ensure that we know all about ourselves. Make a list or lists, be proud and feel good about our successes.

Externally, confidence comes from how we act and look. Paying attention to how we present ourselves in terms of positive body language (good eye contact and open warm gestures) and our appearance are both important. Making the best effort we can is vital.

If we look good, we feel good. I’m sure we can all relate to that. When we have made an effort, we feel more confident.

It’s not however about how we look -it’s about how we feel we look.

Here are my top tips for INCREASED CONFIDENCE.

Interests and hobbies - have some and take time to do them

Negativity – avoid negative people and situations

Contentment with self is vital. Accept who you are

Respect yourself and others will respect you too

Enthusiasm is part of confidence. Share your enthusiasm 

Attitude to yourself- be nice to you!

Skills – know what skills you have and use those you enjoy

Experiences - value yours and share with others

Desire - know what you desire and go for it!

Comfort zone. Be prepared to move yours a little outward

Outlook - is yours positive?! Check it out

Nice belongings and people. Surround yourself!                     
  
Freedom to choose what is right for you brings confidence

Image - pay close attention to yours

De-clutter your wardrobe of anything you don’t feel good in

Eye contact is good for perceived confidence

No one is any better than us – remember that

Clothes - wear ones which make you feel great

Energy – make yours positively infectious!

If you would like some professional support improving your self-esteem, self-belief or confidence, working with a Life Coach can help.

Go on, try it...an exciting, confident journey lies ahead.